should i stay with my boyfriend’s step mom i never met or stay in a hotel? this is my first trip to Hawaii.
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my boyfriend want us to stay with his mom because it will save money,but i never flew on a plane or even took a vacation to another part of the united states. i want my first trip to be wonderful. i never met his step mom and i am afraid that she might not like me. we are travleling there so i can meet his mom and step sisters for the first time. please help me make a good decision.
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my boyfriend want us to stay with his mom because it will save money,but i never flew on a plane or even took a vacation to another part of the united states. i want my first trip to be wonderful. i never met his step mom and i am afraid that she might not like me. we are travleling there so i can meet his mom and step sisters for the first time. please help me make a good decision.
November 25th, 2008 at 5:39 pm
Since you are going there to meet his mom and build a relation with her, i think you should go and stay at her place. That way you can get to know about her more and she about you. You’ll find it surprising when you both get on well because of the time spent together doing the same thing!
Be yourself when there. Dont try to be someone else just to impress her. And the truthfulness of yours will surely win over her heart.
Since you will marry your boyfriend, she is your future mother-in-law as good as your mother. So spend time with her, stay in her house and things will be just fine.
If at all you feel that things are not working properly between you two, then try to make it better, even then if doesnt work then opt to go to a hotel. But a hotel should be your last option.
Show her you care and in turn she’ll care for you. And take some nice gift for her while you go there. Preferably something she likes. Your boyfriend might be of help there.
Also, if you can talk to her over the phone before leaving for Honalulu. That will make her feel good and will show that you care.
Hope you have a nice time there!
Enjoy and Cheers!
November 28th, 2008 at 7:44 am
This is how is see it, your going there on vacation whether it’s to see our beautiful island or see your new to be mother in law, it’s a vacation. If you can’t afford to stay at one of our ridiculously priced hotels then stay at mom’s house. If you want to have space and be alone for late night outings and play, then stay in a hotel, that is if price is not a factor. But what ever it is you decide , good luck at it and have fun. Just curious is she a Hawaiian woman? If she is then you have more to consider.
November 29th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
if his step mom offers for you folks to stay with her don’t turn her down. people in hawaii have a lot of aloha (love) spirit. their hales (homes) are always open for family and friends…and so are most of their refrigerators…lol. it would definitely be a good idea to save money so that you can use it for spending because it’s expensive. every time i go back home to hawaii for vacation i wanna stay in a hotel but i always end up with family because id rather use the money for other stuff. you’re going to hawaii to get to know his family…so i think you should stay with them. you don’t want them thinking you are too good for them or anything. maybe you guys can stay in a hotel/resort for a day or two to relax…don’t let anyone know you are there yet…then check out and go to his mom’s house. no one will ever know you guys were there two days earlier…well, if you go to the beach a lot they might because you’ll either be red (if you are pale or white skinned) or dark brown. i always think about doing that…i think i might on my next vacation. i just hope no one sees me…lol. good luck, have fun and aloooooha!
December 1st, 2008 at 6:58 pm
If you want to make a good impression on his step mom, I would strongly encourage you to stay at her house. Not only will you be able to meet the family but you’ll be able to see how they interact and grab some free insight into how your man thinks.
If you stay in a hotel rather than her house, not only are you going to put yourself in an awkward place with your man (since he wants you all to stay there) but you’ll conveying that you don’t really want to get to know them, that you want your space. First impressions are big here in Hawaii. Don’t miss your chance to make a great one!
Good luck and have a great trip! Happy travels!
December 4th, 2008 at 5:00 am
Hawaii people are friendly and nice to families. I am sure she will welcome you like her daughter. Since this is your first fly out vacation, put more energy on exploring the island culture, sceneries and serenity.
Know a little local cultural before your trip. Don’t forget to bring a small token of appreciation before and after your stay. You’ll hear more about “ohana” (family) when you arrive.
Everyone on the island knows the cost of hotel rooms. If you absolutely have to check-in a hotel room for a day or two, ask one of the family members to reserve a kama’aina rate (local resident discount) and stay at a better hotel (rather than budget ones).